Hello! I’m back to recap more of the NY trip!  If you missed it, you can read about the first couple of days here: New York, NY (Part 1).

(note: apologies if pictures appear sideways or upside on mobile devices – not sure what’s happening – they look fine on normal computer).

Friday, March 4

We all got up around 9am, the girls went downstairs to load up on free continental breakfast. I have to say that bagel and banana was the best thing I’d ever had (it seemed) I was so hungry!  During dialyisis I was surfing Groupon for a tour package, I found one of those elevated busses without a roof. We walked around Times Square area trying to find this place – in the process walked by Radio City Music Hall, and NBC Studios, where we snapped a few pics:


NBC Studios – Jimmy Fallon!


Radio City Music Hall

We then walked several more blocks and finally found our tour company office.  There we got our passes for the tour bus, a ferry ride to see the Statue of Liberty, and discount tickets to the top of the Empire State Building.  We walked a few blocks to our bus stop, and after a bit we were finally aboard!


Cheesing it up atop a giant tour bus


atop the bus, look at all the cabs

For the next hour or so, we made around way from Times Square to the very tip of lower Manhattan. We had earbuds we could plug into the seats of the bus, the driver was talking about the different neighborhoods we’d pass on the way down. It was very mesmerizing to see the streets of New York from the top of a giant bus, you really get a great view of all the action down on the street, and unobstructed views of the very tall buildings and architecture around you. I could have rode this bus all day – it was very entertaining and educational. I learned a lot about the history of these New York neighborhoods on this ride, I highly recommend this when you visit.

We knew our ferry ride to see the Statue of Liberty left at 3:00, and our bus stopped at the pier. However we were a few minutes late, our bus got there at about 3:10 and the ferry had already left. We decided to get off the bus anyway to check out the area.  What a fun couple of places we found! We found a pretty nice bar/restaurant by the pier. We went in, had some drinks and relaxed for about an hour. We knew the next ferry was at 5:00 so we had a little time to kill. After a few drinks and shots we were getting hungry – so we decided to try the little taco shop next door. This was the neatest place – ridiculous good tacos and an old Windstream trailer to eat in, haha.  We didn’t have time to eat there – it was 4:45 at this point, and we had a boat to catch!   So we had “walking tacos” on the way to the ferry.


the best tacos ever in the financial district of lower manhattan!


shots shots shots!

We got to the pier just in time. There was a snack shop so we bought a couple of giant beers and boarded the boat.  It was cold and windy out but we didn’t care, we went upstairs to the open air to get the great views.  Off we went! Out on the water, Brooklyn was on one side of the boat, and Manhattan on the other. The sun had just come out so it made for some beautiful views!


Brooklyn skyline in New York Harbor


Lower Manhattan as we are pulling away

As we were nearing the Statue of Liberty, I was pretty much in awe of my surroundings. Here we were in New York Harbor, approaching the Statue of Liberty, just like the immigrants back in the early 1900’s. The wind was piercing cold but again, I really couldn’t feel it. Too much adrenaline and New York high! Here are a few pics we snapped of Manhattan and the statue as we floated by:


Jenn and I enjoying the view of Manhattan


Lady Liberty!


group selfie! Some statue was photobombing us 🙂


beautiful Manhattan view

The ferry dropped us off on the east side of Manhattan, we grabbed an Uber and sprinted over to Greenwich Village – to a pizza joint called Arturo’s. It was recommended by my New York friend Riz – plus it was convenient for my old high school pal Devin to meet us for dinner. He lives across the river in New Jersey, but it’s a short subway ride for him into the city. It was great to see Devin, I hadn’t seen him in a few years.  We had some outstanding wine and pizza, shared some stories and laughs for a few hours, then Devin led us through Greenwich Village to the nearest subway stop.  Here are a few snaps at Arturo’s, and walking through Washington Square at night on the way to subway:


We trekked back to Times Square in the subway, I had to do a dialysis treatment. After that we had big plans yet for the evening – the Empire State Building at night! We actually walked to the Empire State Building from our hotel.  It was about 7 or 8 blocks… not a bad little hike, and it wasn’t that cold out.

We got to the building, and there was no line at all. We got right in, rode the very fast elevator to the top, with zero wait. Once up there you had the option of staying in a glass enclosed area (where you had great views and warmth!) or you could walk outside to the perimeter, where the only thing separating you and falling 86 stories to the ground is a metal cage-like fencing.  The openings were wide enough you could see through unobsructed for pictures… what views we had up there!

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After this adventure, we walked the 7 or 8 blocks back to Times Square area – decided to pop into a bar near our restaurant for a nightcap.  By this time it was after midnight, and we had just had one epic day.  I couldn’t even finish my glass of wine – we were all pretty much exhausted, knew we had one last epic day left – so we finally crashed about 1am or so.

The most amazing day of the trip was our last day – I’ll cover that in my next post, Part 3.  Look for that in a few days or sometime this next week!

Terry (March 12, 2016)

New York, NY (Part 1)

“Start spreading the news, I’m leaving today.
I want to be a part of it, New York, New York.”

Well it finally happened! My trip to New York last week was the most amazing experience I’ve ever had. Sure, my toes have wiggled in white sandy Florida beaches. My eyes have scanned majestic snow capped Washington mountain tops. I’ve smelled the foamy waves of the Pacific Ocean,  and I’ve walked the icy crags of coastal Maine. I’ve been to all 4 corners of this great land and everywhere in between – but these eyes have never seen anything more beautiful, spellbinding, addicting than New York City.

Wednesday, March 2

I met Jen and Shelley at Laguardia.. we arrived about the same time, about 7pm or so. We shared a car service to our hotel near Times Square. But this wasn’t just a normal car ride, this was my first trip ever into NY.  Once we got close enough to Manhattan to see the ginormous nighttime skyline, I was in awe. I couldn’t believe a city could look so big and powerful.  Within a flash we were in a tunnel, and within a few minutes we popped back up and were in the middle of this monstrocity that is Manhattan. The game was on!

We got to our hotel, checked in, I did a dialyisis treatment – then we were itching to see Times Square and get a bite to eat.  We walked the two blocks to that “glow” down the street. Times Square must be that way, haha! Once we entered Times Square, I was in awe.  Doing 360 degree turns, I saw giant buildings and lights in every direction. And people.. people everywhere. It was 9pm on a Wednesday night, but it may as well have been a Saturday night. This place never shuts down. Here’s the first picture I posed for in New York, in all of Times Square glory:

(Note: If you are reading this on a smart phone, the images may appear sideways, upside down, inside out, I have no idea why… they look fine on a normal computer screen.)


My first ever pic in New York

After walking in a few circles and gawking at all the lights, we decided it was time to grab something to eat.  Now I had some big plans on cool places to eat in New York, but at this point we just needed ANYTHING to eat – so we walked down a side street and found about a million Irish Pubs… so we popped into one.  I can’t remember the name of it but I’m glad we chose it, as our server was the most helpful guy ever. He recommended a bunch of places for us to eat and drink around Times Square since we had a Broadway show nearby to see the next night – places he as a local would recommend. Very cool guy, glad we met him.

After dinner we wanted some wine – so we walked what seemed like forever to Park Avenue, where we found a very swanky wine bar called “Lea NYC”. It wasn’t a super pricy bar, but it was very nice.  Dark and red on the inside, very high ceiling, with a Gotham City sized wall of liquor behind the bar:


Wine Bar – LeaNYC

After a bottle of wine to share, we decided to call it a night.  We walked back to our hotel (about 5 blocks or so), I did my last treatment of the day and crashed.

Thursday, March 3

The first item of business today was to get the tickets to our Broadway show “Kinky Boots”, starring actor/comedian/game show host Wayne Brady. You probably know him best from “Who’s Line Is It Anyway”, or “Let’s Make A Deal”. I didn’t really care which show we saw. The girls picked this one out so I was happy to oblige. I’d bought us tickets in advance but I’d forgotten to pick them up in Indy… So our mission this morning was to find a Ticketmaster Retail location in Manhattan.  We found this as a perfect opportunity to ride the NYC subway for the first time!  We mapped out a record store in Greenwich Village where we could get our tickets, so off we went.  We walked a few blocks to the nearest subway tunnel, figured out how to buy our week-long subway pass, and before you know it we were in a train and rumbling south.  One thing I learned very fast is that Google Maps is your BEST FRIEND in New York when traversing the subways. Another thing I learned very fast is to find out which stop you need to get off on BEFORE you go underground, haha.. Phones don’t work down there 🙂

We found our stop, and made our back back up into the daylight. What a beautiful area Greenwich Village is. It’s an old historical part of town. The buildings aren’t as tall here, it’s more of a “village”, hence the name.  Some very famous musicians used to grace these streets, including Bob Dylan.  We walked around for awhile trying to find the record store, in the process we walked through New York University – such a gorgeous campus next to a really pretty park (Washington Square). Here are Jenn and Shelley posing in this neighborhood:

Jenn and Shelley posing on campus of New York University

Jenn and Shelley posing on campus of New York University

We got the tickets and decided we needed lunch. I knew just the place – the Little Italy neighborhood was nearby.  We got back on the subway for a short trip there, and popped up in this pretty little village full of Italian heritage. We found the pizza place we wanted – Lombardi’s. It was recommended by my friend Riz, who is a New Yorker.  Little did I know how blown away I was going to be by New York pizza, specifically Lombardi’s. It was the best pizza I’d ever had in my life. It’s hard to explain. The crust, the sauce, the fresh mozzarella, the coal oven taste, the meats, it was simply heavenly.  Here are a few shots at Lombardi’s and the streets of Little Italy:


Me posing at the LIttle Italy sign


The best pizza I’ve ever had in my life, at Lombardi’s in LIttle Italy










After eating, we did some more sightseeing in Little Italy, then decided we had to get back to our hotel to get ready for our Broadway show. So back in the subway we went, heading north this time. Within 10 minutes we were back in Times Square… man those things are fast!

Ok – now it’s time for a funny side story. Originally there were supposed to be 4 of us on the trip. Jenn invited two of her friends (Shelley and Andrea).  So we bought 4 tickets to the Broadway show. Unfortunately, Andrea was very very sick the week of the trip, so she had to cancel.  She offered to pay me for the ticket, which was the original plan.  However, something about being in New York makes you feel adventurous. Makes you feel like doing something you wouldn’t normally do.  So – of course I got on the “Tinder” dating app, haha.  Now, the intent here wasn’t to find a date – I was there with friends, I was happy with that.  The intent was to give away a ticket to Kinky Boots. I offered it to a really nice girl named Rachel, who lives in Brooklyn.  I told her that it wasn’t really going to be a “date”, that she’d be with me and 2 other girls, and that we just had an extra ticket to give away.  I told her nothing weird was going on, and it is what it is.   She replied with “I’m in… plus I’m from Israel, it takes a lot to weird me out” haha.   Soooo…. I met Rachel in Times Square just before the show. We walked to the theatre together, met the other girls there, had a blast at the show, the 4 of us had a fun dinner after.  Rachel went back home to Brooklyn around midnight, and we never saw her again the rest of the trip.  So yes, a random Brooklyn girl got a free $150 ticket to a Broadway show. So THAT was a fun little side story.

Ok – so now I have to talk about the show itself. I’m not a huge play/musical person, but I do appreciate the arts and enjoy them when I get a chance. I had only seen one Broadway type show before (in Indianapolis many many years ago), I do remember enjoying it. So I was excited to experience this directly on Broadway.   We arrived at the theatre, and I was instantly charmed by it.  These Broadway theatres are very old… like over 100 years old easily. You walk in, the moldings are old, the seating, the facades, the stage, everything. It’s so authentic, you feel like you just walked about 100 years into the past.  But when you add in the modern lighting and sound systems, and theatre props, it’s a truly mesmerizing experience!

The show was outstanding. Full of music, dancing, funny dialogue, and top notch audience appreciation. There’s truly nothing like it in the world.   We weren’t allowed to take pictures inside, but I did get a few shots outside after.  Here are the 4 of us having fun by a marquee outside, and then one of me and Wayne Brady himself, who came out to meet fans 🙂


Rachel from Brooklyn, Shelley, (Wayne Brady’s character Lola), Jenn, and Myself outside of the theatre on Broadway


Myself and Wayne Brady… He’s actually taking the selfie here 🙂










After the show we found this great little restaurant around the corner from the theatre. We wined and dined in this little dive with GREAT food. Hung out laughing, trading stories till after midnight, when our Brooklyn friend had to go home.  She left, we left, and called it a night. What a first full day in New York! We had experienced so much already, and we still had Friday and Saturday to go!

Part 2 (Friday and Saturday) will be my next entry – maybe later this week. Stay tuned!

To see ALL of my pictures from the trip, click here to go to my GOOGLE DRIVE.

Terry (March 8, 2016)


6 Month Report Card


Greetings, Earthlings! Here it is late February, and I just realized that this month I hit my 6-month mark on being on dialysis. It’s been a pretty interesting ride, with ups and downs. There have been some bumps, but just like driving on any bumpy road, you learn how to slow down. You learn how to use the high-beams and see them in advance, so you can turn the wheel to avoid them. Being on dialysis brings bumps to every road in life.

Instead of just idly rambling about different things, I thought I’d have some fun and structure this like a report card. You know, like back in school. Consider this my “mid term” assessments in my first year of treatment. I’ll break things down into Subjects – and talk about how daily dialysis treatments affects my life in each one.

Ok – so I’ll start with the one that blows my mind the most. The human body is a flat out miracle the way it works. Sure, we all know the details of each system that runs our body. Mankind has learned a lot about itself over the thousands of years it’s been studied, but let’s be honest – most of us don’t even think about it. We wake up, our hearts beat, our lungs fill with air, we see the sights, we hear the sounds, we smell the sweet aromas of life every day. We eat, we drink, we indulge from time to time, without even thinking about it. We may overdo it sometimes, and we feel like crap, but our body is an amazing machine that recovers pretty quickly.

Your kidneys play a major role in that. They help keep chemicals in your body balanced. They remove waste products and extra water from your blood. When your kidney’s aren’t working very well, you basically feel like crap. Your body gets exhausted trying to function normally with all the contaminants still in it. Since my kidneys aren’t working very well, they need help filtering my blood. Enter kidney dialysis.

I know that dialysis doesn’t do all the work that healthy kidneys do. In fact, it only does about 10% of the work. But let me tell you, you can feel every bit of that 10% and you count on every bit of it. That 10% makes me feel pretty close to normal most of the time. I do find myself very tired in the evenings, but it’s seems like a normal tired. I still go out at night on occasion but most nights I’m happy to be at home resting, and going to bed at a decent normal hour. Based on the way I feel most of the day, and positive feedback from my doctors, I’m passing with flying colors on the Biology front. While my natural body gets a failing grade here, my mind and treatments give me a solid “A” grade here.

It’s mind blowing how much money it costs to be sick. It’s no secret how expensive health care is today’s world. Some people have a much better setup than others with health insurance. I’m very thankful that I have excellent health insurance. Without it, I wouldn’t be able to get the excellent care I’m getting. Being single makes it even more affordable. I’m on an HDHP plan. That means I pay a very low monthly premium, but have a high out of pocket deductibe. For example – as a single guy, I pay the first $3000 out of my own pocket each year. Doctor visits, prescriptions, labs, anything. There’s no “80/20” or co-pays. If I go to the doctor in January, and the office visit is $300, then I pay $300. Simple as that. HOwever, once I get to $3000 on the year, everything is 100% paid for by insurance.

Since my dialyisis treatments cost almost $2000 PER WEEK – you can see that I hit that $3000 threshhold super early in the year. Like in the 2nd week of January. That’s why my insurance is so good. Sure I have to lump out a pretty big chunk of change early in the year, but after that everything is 100% paid for by insurance. Medicines, doctor visits, labs, anything, everything. I’m so very thankful for that.

Because of my job and my insurance – and being a Medicare recipient (that comes into play whenever we start talking Transplant – but that’s pretty complicated so I’m not gonna get into that here) – I give myself an “A” in Economics. I honestly can’t ask for a better setup.

Social Studies
Social Studies… or in this case, let’s talk about my social life. Before I got sick last year, it’s no secret of my lifestyle. I’ve never been married, no kids, and trust me I took advantage of that lifestyle. I traveled a lot, was always out with friends, always on the go. I was very spontaneous, impulsive, and never made plans. Always lived by the moment. People would ask me what I’m doing that evening, I’d say “I don’t know, I’ll tell you this evening”. It’s just the way I was, and I thrived on it.

I’ve definitely had to put the breaks on that way of living in the past 6 months. I have no choice but to plan ahead for things now. First and foremost, I know I have to be fairly close to home most of the time, or at least plan ahead to take treatments with me. Since I have to do treatments 4x per day, I definitely have had to adjust to structure. Living where I do really helps in that regard. I live in a very hip, active area of town, so it’s very easy to be out and about for fun, and pop back into home for treatment whenever I need to.

I’ve learned that I can still travel. My dialyis company has the ability to deliver supplies to any hotel in the country for me, with advance planning. I had 5 days worth delivered to Miami for my vacation last month, and here in a few weeks I’m going to New York City. I’ve already made plans to have it delivered to my hotel there. I plan on seeing all the sites in NY with easily being able to pop into my hotel for treatments when needed.

I have had to set limits to myself in my social life. While I’m still able to go out with friends anytime I want, I do it now with a set limit. I know I have to be home at a decent hour for my last treatment of the day. I know I need more rest than I used to get. Going to bed at 10 or 11pm on a Friday night doesn’t seem so “lame” anymore. In fact it’s a crucial part of my lifestyle now – to get rest and feel good each day. It’s the only way I can function, as my body is severely handicapped in it’s efforts to “feel good” naturally. So I need to help it all I can.

With the limits I’ve set on myself, I can honestly say I haven’t missed a beat. I still go to concerts, vacations, restaurants, and any other social gathering I used to go to. I just set a time limit for myself now. It’s worked out very well!

I’ve even started dating again – for the first time in a long time. At first I didn’t really know how to tackle that. How do you tell someone you’re interested in “Hey, I really like you – I think we’d have fun together. Oh, but I need a kidney transplant and am on dialysis for awhile, I hope that’s not a big deal”. It’s one of those things where you wonder “at what point do I bring this up”? Do you do it right up front, so there are no surprises? Or do you go out a few times, and if you see things progressing – then you talk about it? Or is that considered not being honest up front, and putting the other person in an awkward position? I dunno. So far I’ve opted to let the person know up front. The few girls I’ve gone out with were very cool and didn’t seem bothered by it. But then again they aren’t around anymore so who knows, haha. Kidding. I’m just glad to be back out in circulation again. I was dormant for so long in that regard. I am getting more comfortable with it so it’s not as awkward to talk about up front anymore.

I’m gonna give myself a solid “B” here in Social Studies because I know there’s room to improve and I’ll get better.

Quiero hablar español! (I want to speak Spanish!) Why? I have no idea. I only took 1 year of Spanish in 9th grade, so it’s not like I could ever speak it before. But I figure it’s the 2nd most popular language in America, so why not try to learn some of it? Anyway – I figure since I’m chained up to my dialyis pole 4x per day (for 30 minutes at a time), I might as well do something productive with it. I bought the Rosetta Stone course for my iPad last year – and I must say I’ve been very consistent with using it. I probably do about 45 or so minutes per day on it. It takes a looooong time to do this course, and you have to be consistent with it. In fact, I’ve been doing this consistently for 5 or 6 months now, and I’m only about 1/4 of the way through the course. I’m still in the beginnings/basics so I haven’t learned a whole lot yet. It makes a lot of sense when it’s in front of me, but I can’t really use it in real life practice yet. The course is structured to teach you how to do basic life interaction functions. How to talk to a store clerk, or a waiter, how to ask directions, how to inquire about public transportation, etc… It’s very very basic so far, but challenging. It already “clicks” in my brain when it’s in front of me in the course – but I can’t wait for it to “click” when I’m out and about walking around on my own. I’ll get there. In the meantime I’m LOVING these courses and actually look forward to dialysis now so I can study Spanish! Out of the 2 hours per day I’m hooked up, probably almost an hour of it is practicing Spanish.

My goal is to write a blog post completely in Spanish someday – but I’ll give that some time. Maybe late summer I’ll give that a shot. It’ll be a short entry though hahah.  My current grade in Spanish?  haha… well – the courseware so far thinks I’m making an “A”… and I suppose I am… however I am definitely a novice. I’ll give myself a Kindergarten grade here.. how about “S” for Satisfactory, haha.

Physical Education
I’ll tell you what – if there’s anybody who can’t wait for the Spring thaw it’s me. I’m jumping at the bit to get outside. To start walking and riding my bike again. It’s been a long cold winter and I have to say I haven’t exercised much at all. When I first started dialysis I started gaining a few pounds, and the reason for that was two-fold. First, my body was adjusting to having all this dialysis sugar water sitting in it 24/7 (it really packs on the extra calories), and also because I basically quit exercising once Winter hit. I did by a spinner bike, and I do use it once per week, however I need a more structured exercise schedule. I prefer the “natural” exercise… like when I want to go for a long walk or a bike ride – those things are non existent in the frigid Indiana winter. Today it’s in the 60’s in February – which is like a heat wave – so after writing this entry I’m going to go out for a walk. I’m sure there are a lot of people out today!

Thankfully I’ve quit gaining weight though. I’ve changed my treatment solution schedule up a bit – and I haven’t gained a pound in the past few months. I haven’t lost any either – but I really haven’t been trying. Once my daily exercises ramp up in Spring (very soon!) I’ll start to see that scale dip down again. But I’m perfectly happy with where I’m at right now, I’ll let that stuff happen naturally in the coming months.  But, my P.E. grade so far? We’re gonna have to go with “C” – as I definitely have to ramp that up.

Well, that’s it, there’s my report card… Pretty long entry, but I was bored and wanted to let you guys know how I’m doing. You can probably tell I’m doing ok based on my Facebook posts and when you see me out and about. I’m just sitting around waiting on a transplant match. I do have some positive news there but don’t want to jinx anything – I’ll write about that when things come together. It just takes awhile. I have had a few living donor matches, but it just takes a long time for that process to pan out. Wish me and my potential donors luck on that.

If you’re just now reading about this for the first time, and are interested in learning about being a living kidney donor, please read THIS BLOG POST… all the info is in there. Thanks for being a great friend and person and thanks for reading!

I’m earning my PhD in Traveling on PD


… because I’m going on THE ROCK BOAT next week! I’m not going to go into details of this amazing trip, if you know me at all you know I’ve done this trip every year since 2004. It’s basically a floating concert festival with about 20 or 30 bands and a couple thousand of the best people you’ll ever meet.  There are a lot of repeat visitors like myself – and lifelong friendships have developed over the years.   This year’s trip was planned and booked all in the past week. Why so late in the game, and how did it come together?  Grab a cup of coffee and read on.

If you read this blog at all, you know the ordeal I’ve been going through in the past year. How I felt really bad, exhausted, fatigued for several months. How I reached Stage 5 kidney failure, started hemodialysis and eventually switched to peritoneal dialysis. If you want details on all of that, read previous entries. But for now, fast forward to today’s topic – traveling on peritoneal dialysis (PD).

It’s no secret I like to travel. I do a lot of short trips here and there. I realize that with my new lifestyle that I have to be more realistic with my social life and traveling, and do what’s best for my body as opposed to my keeping my old habits. I have drastically cut back on my social outings, I stay home a lot more than I used to, but I still get out on occasion.  The same goes with traveling.

My first trip was a weekend in Washington DC with my sister and her husband. I was able to travel via plane with 2 days worth of dialysis fluid. It was a heavy haul but I managed it, and was able to do my treatments in the AirBnB house we rented.  I was able to sightsee in Washington and zip back for treatments whenever I needed to. It worked out really great, and I had the energy to last all weekend – just like a normal person.

My second trip was a piece of cake compared to that one. I drove to Chicago for a weekend. It’s easy to haul a few days worth of supplies in a car. I was able to do my treatments at my friend Amy’s place in the city, which was easy to zip to and from for treatments while we were out and about doing things.

Now back to the Rock Boat. This is a trip you typically book many many months in advance. It costs a lot of money and takes planning for flights, hotels, and paying cruise fare.  Because of all the things I went through last summer, I decided to not even book the Rock Boat for 2016. I didn’t know what kind of dialysis I’d be on, if I’d be laid up sick, or even if I’d be having kidney transplant surgery. I honestly had no idea about my future so I didn’t book it.  No big deal, it wasn’t a big issue – I can skip a Rock Boat for sake of the rusty kidneys.

Well about a week ago. I received a call from my very amazing and good friend Andrea. She and her husband Scott are long time Rock Boaters. I talked them into going 7 or 8 years ago, and they have gone back every year. They had a baby in July 2014. They attempted Rock Boat last year but had to fly home (the morning of!) for an emergency with their baby. He’s fine thankfully 🙂  So here it is a year later – they had booked TRB again – but as time came near they decided that one of them should stay home with the baby. He’s not sick, it’s just parental instinct, not wanting to leave baby behind with both of them gone, and probably fear of last year happening again.

Andrea called to offer me Scott’s spot on the boat – to room with her on the cruise.  To me, money wasn’t the issue – I have money to pay. But I declined for the same reasons I didn’t book in the first place – just because of the logistics of it all. This isn’t one of those “carry-on” trips like Washington for a couple days.  This is 7 nights – with 5 of them on a cruise ship.  How in the world would I get 7 days worth of dialysis fluid to Miami, then onto a cruise ship?  I can’t fly with that much. This is why I never booked it in the first place.  Just too much hassle.   So I politely declined – despite the offered monetary deal, which was basically next to nothing.

Later that day, Scott gave me call – giving me the same offer. I reminded him of the logistical issues, and how it would be even tougher to pull off last minute.  I knew that my dialysis clinic offered delivery to any city in the U.S. – but still, it seemed like a nightmare to deal with it. But to satisfy curiosity, I told him to hold off on offering to anybody else for a few hours – and I’d call him at end of day.  Here’s what I found out that afternoon:

  • I called a few hotels near the port, asked if they’d receive and store a shipment of dialysis fluid for me, a few days prior to my arrival.  One of them said “yes”.
  • I called the Norwegian Cruise Line, asked about their policy with peritoneal dialysis patients. They said they do accommodate us with no problem. It’s just a matter of getting my supplies on the ship, which is usually done by the dialysis company directly. They let them on board and the items are delivered to my cabin.

That’s all I needed to hear. I got very excited, and felt like James Bond for a second. I’m really pulling off a crazy feat here – so I called Scott back, told him “i’m in!” and set forth in booking everything.

I used points I’ve accumulated for a free flight.  I also used points for a free hotel night in Miami before the cruise.  I’m staying an extra night in Miami after the cruise because (a) why not? (b) flight is  a LOT cheaper on Monday (it made the extra hotel night a wash), and (c) I’m sure a relaxing day and night on land before flying will be good for my body.  Plus I won’t have to do any dailysis exchanges in an airport the day we get back.

So here’s my logistical plan:

  1. Plan for 7 days worth of dialysis fluid to be shipped to my Miami hotel (DONE)
  2. When I arrive at hotel, take 1 day’s worth to my room.. Leave remaining boxes in hotel storage until next day
  3. On boarding day, load up 5 days worth onto the hotel shuttle van (leave 1 box behind at hotel for the night that I return from cruise)
  4. Call the pier supervisor for Port of Miami (he’ll be expecting my call, per NCL Access Staff)
  5. Meet pier supervisor at the terminal where I’m dropped off, he’ll handle logistics of getting my supplies to my cabin… offering any assistance or special porters I may need.
  6. Make sure I have a couple extra treatments with me in a backpack as I board, in case there are delays getting my supplies to my room.
  8. Get back to hotel in Miami after cruise, where I’ll have a box of supplies left from several days prior.
  9. Rest up, fly home next day.

I plan on having the time of my life. The biggest difference is I won’t be indulging in all those buckets of cerveza that I usually do.  I can drink alcohol – that’s not an issue. I just have to watch the amount of liquid in general I take in. That includes water, cola, juice, alcohol, everything.  A dialysis diet means I have to eat a lot of protein. That’s not a problem on a cruise ship.  The problem is – the copious amounts of salt and libations available to you.  I can have both – but in moderation. Otherwise I’ll bloat up and start retaining a ton of extra water.  My dialysis gets rid of this extra water – but it can get to an extreme level on a cruise ship.  So I just have to be careful with my intake.

If you’re reading this and you’re on the Rock Boat and you see me with a drink in my hand, don’t think anything bad – I’m allowed to live, enjoy myself, and relax on vacation – I just have to be very responsible on the volume.  That’s my plan of attack.  (In other words, don’t be shy about offering me a teeny tiny shot once in awhile haha…)

Anyway kids – I’ll see you on THE ROCK BOAT next week!

Terry (1/19/2016)

(All images/graphics courtesy of Sixthman / Will Byington Photography)





A Life Opening Gift


Check out the picture. In my hand is an ordinary letter opener. It was given to me as a gift from someone about 15 or so years ago. It came in a set of small knives that look similar to this. I still have the knives but never really use them for anything. I do use the letter opener though. I’ve used it all these years, it’s been a handy dandy little tool.

Why in the world am I blogging about a letter opener, you must be asking yourself? Well as it turns out, it’s more than a letter opener. It’s also opened my eyes, my brain, my heart, my drive to continue every day.  The box in the picture – that is a box of peritoneal dialysis fluid. This box contains 5 bags of fluid that I put into my body, then drain from my body.  I go through 4 bags every day.  So by doing the math, you can see that I have to open one of these boxes up almost every day.  After about a month of ripping the tape off with my hands, or using my keys to jaggedly cut the tape, it dawned on me that my “letter opener” would make a hell of a “dialysis box opener”.

Again – you’re wondering – why in the world am I blogging about this letter opener? Well hang on. Remember I told you that it was a gift from a long time ago?  The person who gave it to me was my Uncle Jim.  A small handful of years after he gave me this gift, he died from complications of kidney failure.

Ding Ding Ding… there’s the “ah-ha” moment.

Uncle Jim has been gone almost 13 years now. He was by far the funniest guy I’ve ever met. From his wise cracking jokes to his comedic demeanor, he always had us laughing.  His sons (my cousins Mike, Jamie, Joe and Jake) are like brothers to me, we all grew up together. We’d always kid around – talk like Jim, act like Jim, basically emulate him because he was so damn funny.

His last few years were really rough on him. He was on hemodialysis, and his body was breaking down from complications. His body wasn’t strong enough to hang on, and he wasn’t eligible for a transplant.  He died in 2003 at age 53.

Fast forward to 2015 – here I am, age 45 and on (peritoneal) dialysis myself. Luckily, I’m a lot younger and stronger than he was – my body can handle dialysis and medication, and I’m a prime transplant candidate.  Uncle Jim knew about my kidney condition before he passed – he always told me to keep close tabs and take care of it when I have to.  Well Uncle Jim, here I am – following your advice. I’m doing all the right things, taking all the right steps, and I’ll be damned if I’m not using the letter opener you gave me to open my peritoneal dialysis fluid boxes every day.

That gift you gave me was more than a letter opener. It was an opener of life – as that what it gives me every single day.



Pictured, in December 2001: My Grandpa Clark, Jim’s boys Mike, Jamie, Jake, then Uncle Jim, then his other son Joe.

December update

Happy Holidays! It’s been a few months since my last post, so I thought I’d take a few mins and let you all know how I’m doing.  As you can probably see from my Facebook activity, I’m living my life as normal as I possible can. I’m doing all the things I used to do (but with a lot more moderation, I do rest more than before!) But I am enjoying my life. I am feeling great every day, which is a blessing. I do labs and see my doctor every month – All of my blood numbers are great, which means dialysis and medication are working.  It’s really comforting to know that I’m doing all the right things on my own without help from anyone.

A few months ago I posted about how I’m officially on the IU Health / Indiana Transplant list. This means I’m basically “waiting my turn” for a deceased donor kidney.  That process takes 2-3 years at least.  The other (preferred) alternative is to get a “living donor” – meaning someone living being gracious enough to donate one of their kidneys to me. These kidneys are healthier and tend to last longer than deceased donor ones.  A few months back I posted how friends, family, or whomever could start the process of checking.  Apparently quite a few of you called the number or filled out the form – that’s what they told my Mom when she called anyway –  I can’t tell how amazing that is. It means the world to me that you’d even consider such a thing.

For those of you that did call the Transplant center or did fill out the form, I wanted to let you know that I have 100% zero knowledge of anything during your process. I’m not updated on your results, decisions, etc.  It’s confidential information between you and the transplant center.  All of your interviews, blood testing, background checks, anything and everything, I hear nothing about any of it.  I receive zero phone calls, zero updates, zero nothing from the hospital.  Not even if you applied and you’re “not” a match – I don’t hear anything.  The only time they contact me is when a donor has gone through all testing and is 100% approved and ready to do it – that’s when I find out – from the doctors anyway.  Quite a cool surprise huh? 🙂  Or, the potential donor can keep me updated as well if they wish, but it’s absolutely not required.

Anyway – I’m just giving you all an update – my “rock star” cousin Dennis immediately stepped up to the plate, offered to get checked out, and guess what – he told me he was a good match! Talk about great news right??? This was about a month ago.  Nothing has progressed further though – as they told him to hold off on further testing because – get this – there’s ANOTHER matched living donor who came forward – and they are (apparently) going through further testing right now!?!?!?

Talk about double good news! But the thing is – whomever you are – I have no idea who you are! I have no idea of who all went to get tested (I know of some that said they were going to, but I have no confirmation of who all really did outside of my cousin Dennis).  But I just wanted to say – to whomever you are – even if you decide to not go through with it, or something else comes up that makes you ineligible – thank you thank you THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for stepping up to the plate.

So there’s my update – I have at least 2 potential living donor matches. Could be more, could be just that, I’m not sure.  Whomever this other person is, and my cousin Dennis.  I know about this other person because  Dennis was told to “stand by” while the other person is processed further. I”m assuming this other person is still being evaluated – whomever you are!!

In the meantime I’m doing really well at my 4x per day dialysis routine.  It takes about 25-30 minutes for each treatment, I do it before work, once at work, right after work, then at bedtime. So far so good – it’s a schedule I’ve adjusted to well.  Here’s to fingers crossed on further donor match evaluating and news in the next month !  In the meantime, I hope all of you have a great holiday season!


ps – if you’re just now hearing about all this and would like to see if you’re a possible match, first of all – THANK YOU! 2nd, here’s the info you need:

  1. (strongly encouraged) Read about the IU Health Transplant program, and fill out the Living Donor Intake Form.  For name of recipient, put “Chester T. Angel”. (Chester is my legal first name, some of you may not know this).
  2. (optional) Call the transplant coordinators at 800-382-4602, or if local, 317-944-4370 (8am-4pm Eastern time M-F) if you have specific questions or concerns, or if you just prefer to initiate things via phone.

My New Daily Routine / Transplant Listing News

Hello curious friends and interested strangers, it’s been awhile since I’ve posted an update so I thought I’d take this “extra hour” of daylight saving time this morning to give you all an update on my life’s recent happenings.

I”m 100% full steam ahead on my peritoneal dialysis treatments. It’s basically become a way of life now. It’s part of my daily routine, just like going to the restroom or having a meal.  Four times per day I go through the process of sanitizing and preparing my treatment area and draining/refilling the dialysis fluid from my abdomen.  This entire process (prep thru cleanup) takes about 30 minutes. In the mornings I do it right after my shower (since I also have to clean/bandage my exit site each day, I do this with my morning exchange) – so the morning “process” takes about 35 minutes.   The other three take about 25-30 mins, depending on how much fluid drains from my body.

There are 3 strengths of dialysis solution. It’s basically a “sugar water” – when it’s in your peritoneal cavity it sucks water/wastes from your blood vessels into the solution.  You then drain the old/refill with new solution. The higher the strength of solution, the more water/waste it pulls from your vessels.  It’s amazing how the different solutions work.  There’s 1.5% dextrose, 2.5% dextrose, and 4.5% dextrose.  No matter which strength I use, I always “put in” 2500ml (2.5 kilos).  As the solution sits in my body over several hours, it “draws in” more water from my bloodstream.  So as you can imagine, I “drain out” more liquid than I “put in”.   I’ve found that when I use the 1.5%, I’ll drain out about 2600-2700ml.  When I use 2.5%, I’ll drain out about 3100-3300ml.  When I use the 4.5%, I’ll drain out a whopping 3900-4000ml.   To put this in perspective, think of a gallon of milk – that is roughly 3700ml.    When you compare these nunbers to the 2500ml I put in each time, you can see how much output I have. Imagine pouring about 3/4 gallon of water into your abdomen, and draining out upwards of a full gallon or more – 4 times per day… every day.   I’ve found that my “net” water output from my bloodstream (Total drained minus total put in) comes to about 2000ml…   That’s about 4.5 POUNDS of water filtered directly from my bloodstream every day!

I do feel “full” a lot. Not so much as in a “not hungry” full – it’s different. More of a bloated feel. It’s also not as easy to bend certain ways. Rolling over in bed is a gingerly process, getting in and out of my car is a chore sometimes. I’ve found that the higher strength I use, and the longer into the dwell session I am, the more bloated I feel (because there’s more fluid building up around my belly).   I have to tell you though – during the “drain” process it’s such a relieving feeling! Even after “filling” back up (with 2500ml) it’s usually a lot less than I just drained out so I feel less bloated for the time being.

The good news is, my initial labs show the dialysis is working, my numbers look great.  My doctor told me to stick with the 1.5% for the most part but mix in some 2.5% here and there. He told me to not use the 4.5%  – he said that’s mainly used when people need a ton of fluid removed fast.  Since I’m not in that condition I don’t need to use that strength, thankfully. I did experiment with it and man – that stuff really pumps out the fluid. That’s when I was draining out like 4000ml every 5 hours…  not fun.   So, I’m very happy to stick with the 1.5% and 2.5% solutions.

On to other news – I’m officially on the Indiana Kidney Transplant list! I’ve gone through all of my testing and financial requirements, I was approved by the “board” last week.  What does this mean? Well, it means that someday it’ll be “my turn” to receive a kidney from a deceased organ donor.  This wait period takes about 3-5 years typically.  The preferred route for me (or anyone) though is to receive a kidney from a living donor.  Those kidneys are healthier and tend to last longer.  Plus there’s no 3-5 year wait time – you basically schedule it for convenience of both parties.  While I’m hoping to find a living donor match, I’m very grateful to be on the other “list” – and am overwhelmed with emotion knowing that people like myself are just “waiting on people to die” so we can get one of their organs.  It just seems so sinister. I certainly don’t want anybody to die so they can help me. But I am truly grateful for their ultimate gift to help me when it does happen.

As for potential living donors, I know of a handful of people who have told me they are in process of being tested or plan to do so. All of that testing and communication is confidential between the potential donor and the doctors. I will never have any news reported to me personally unless it’s by the person attempting to donate. All of this seems so surreal to me – I’m so thankful for the selflessness shown by these people (you know who you are). While I could never ask anyone to do this for me – I’m so thankful for you – each and every one of you, you’re the reasons I have hope for a long life!


After 1 full day…

I’ve done 4 CAPD exchanges so far (acronym for Continuous Ambulatory Peritoneal Dialysis) – and wow I think my body has some adjusting to do.  I’m putting in more fluid than I was in the training sessions, and my body is like “whoa”.  Each exchange I drain out the old fluid, and put in new… I put in 2.5 kilos of fluid (that’s over 5 pounds!)… so yeah – imagine pouring a little over 1/2 gallon of water into your abdomen at once… it’s pretty darn “filling”.

Note that it’s not in my stomach. It’s outside of my stomach… and intestines… and other organs that reside in your midsection. It’s in an area that’s not used to be full of fluid.  So it feels very tight right now – actually it feels like I just did about 200 situps.  Kind of sore in a cramp kind of way, but not painful.  Kind of a weird feeling.   Plus I feel “full” all the time even though I’m hungry.  That’s another weird feeling.  So I do eat but not as much as before.  I need to watch that as I need to eat a lot of protein every day so I can’t shortchange myself.

The wild part is how much water/waste material I’m draining out with each exchange.  Remember how I’m putting in 2.5kilos of fluid?  Well the last couple of exchanges I’ve drained out 3.2 kilos.   Where did that extra 0.7 kilos of fluid come from? (that’s about 1.5 pounds!)?  It’s the “bad” fluid/waste products in my bloodstream!  It shows it’s working.  Instead of my kidneys filtering this bad stuff out into urine,  my peritoneum is filtering it and I’m draining it out from the tube in my belly.

Medical technology is phenomenal.  In the past 24 hours I’ve drained about 4 or 5 pounds of water/waste product out of my body.

Because of this, I can eat and drink all I want. My body is now being filtered – it’s not staying inside of me and making me feel sick or fatigued. Hemodyalisis made me feel great too – but that was a 3x per week thing.  So, instead of Hemodialysis taking 8-10lbs of water out of me every 2 days,  with PD I’m now taking 4-5 lbs out on my own every day.  It all equals out.

(don’t worry – I’m not losing 4-5 lbs of body weight every day… I’d disappear pretty soon huh? haha.)  I put it back in with eating and drinking… it’s just that every day the bad stuff gets taken out, and it’s being put back in with food I eat and water I drink.  Before dialysis, the bad stuff wasn’t coming out… it was staying in my body and making me feel very bad.

Each exchange takes about 30 mins… 4x per day.  It’s a new lifestyle… but very manageable and I’m so happy to be doing it myself without assistance from others or the need to go into a clinic.



PD – Day 1

Well here we go! Peritoneal Dialysis, Day 1. All my supplies were delivered today.  A corner of my room is all set up to resemble a doctor’s office (sexy huh!) but hey, I’m all set up and ready to roll each day. As you can see, the supplies take up a lot of room.  That’s about a month’s worth of supplies, currently in my kitching/dining area. I may get creative in finding spots to stash these boxes around my apartment, but for now this spot works. Each box contains 5 bags of dialysite fluid (I’ll use 4 bags each day).

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The delivery guy came today, brought all these boxes upstairs (he used a nifty dolly that could walk up stairs – it was pretty darn cool). Then my PD nurses showed up (they were wowed by my uber cool apartment and my stellar setup haha) – I did my first “fill” at home in their presence, I did a bang up job, and they signed me off to be on my own.   That means… no more hemodialysis! Needle sticks and annoying beeping machines be gone.  Hot damn.

Now comes the tasks of 4 drains/refills every day. Until I get a transplant. Whenever that may be. Fingers crossed for a match next week! If not, I’m glad I have this setup to keep me happy and healthy until that time comes.


It’s time! How to see if we’re a transplant match.


Let’s see if I can read your mind. Some of you are probably sitting around your house, planning your upcoming week. Perhaps you are wondering what you’re going to buy at the grocery, or which movie to go see this weekend. Maybe you’re excited about the Fall season starting and want to start carving pumpkins or stocking up on Halloween candy WAY too early (I say go for it). ORRRR… maybe you’re saying to yourself.. “I want to give Terry Angel one of my kidneys – how do I check to see if we match?”

See, I KNEW I could read your mind! haha. Ok I’m kidding. 🙂 That being said, I’ll be serious about this now, as it’s a very serious subject.

I’ve had several people reach out to me in the last few months, asking how they can check to see if they could be a kidney donor match. I really didn’t have an answer, up until now. It took awhile to go through all the insurance approvals, getting all my tests done to make sure I’m a transplant candidate, and other necessary things to get the ball rolling.

Well now, I have some answers. If you’re interested in checking, here’s what you can do:

  1. (strongly encouraged) Read about the IU Health Transplant program, and fill out the Living Donor Intake Form.  For name of recipient, put “Chester T. Angel”. (Chester is my legal first name, some of you may not know this).
  2. (optional) Call the transplant coordinators at 800-382-4602, or if local, 317-944-4370 (8am-4pm Eastern time M-F) if you have specific questions or concerns, or if you just prefer to initiate things via phone.
  3. (optional) Attend my kidney transplant evaluation/education day on Wednesday, October 21. I’ve been told any potential donor may attend. This is a good way to talk to counselors and surgeons in person to ask any questions you may have. You can have your cross-matching blood sample drawn this day as well. This is also the day I get my cross-matching test done. How exciting!

Location info: IU Health University Hospital, 550 University Blvd, Indianapolis IN 46202. Valet Parking at front door is $5 for all day. Here’s the day itinerary:


  • my blood type is A-  (A negative). Which means I can receive an organ from anybody with any “A” blood type or “O” blood type.  If you’re a “B” or an “AB”, we aren’t compatible.
  • There are other things besides blood type that need to make us compatible. It’s some very complicated immune system antigen mumbo jumbo that only a doctor could explain to us – some people are good matches and some people aren’t.  I attempted to blog about it HERE but you can probably find more info online yourself.
  • There are some things that would probably disqualify you as a donor. Things such as diabetes, heart disease, high blood pressure, drug abuse. However if you’re on the fence on some of these things but want to donate, it may still be worth filling the form out.
  • Cost: My insurance covers 100% of everything for you. Your surgery, your hospital time, your recovery, your medication, your followups, everything.  The only thing it does NOT cover is your lost time from work, which might be a week or two.
  • Paired Donation: Even if we don’t match, and you still want to donate a kidney to help me out, there are programs where I team up with another person who needs a kidney. Perhaps you match them, and their friend matches me. This is a national database that has helped a LOT of people match this way. While I’m not receiving YOUR kidney -someone else is, and I’m still getting a transplant because of you. Plus you are helping TWO people instead of one:


If you can’t attend the evaluation/education day – don’t fret. I know it’s a weekday, and most of us either have jobs or geography issues. The easiest thing you can do is fill out the online form or call the number above. You will hear back from a transplant coordinator for further information and instruction.

First and foremost though I want everyone reading this to understand that I am NOT asking anybody to check. Nobody. Donating one of your organs is a very personal thing. It’s a very big thing. It’s Mount Everest huge.  It’s certainly not as easy a decision as say, letting someone borrow your car or loaning someone a chunk of money you know you’ll probably never see again. This is a piece of your own body leaving you, forever.  Some people have religious beliefs, fear they may need both your kidneys later in life, have a big fear of surgery and potential complications, can’t donate because of reasons they don’t want to disclose, or flat out don’t want to.  Whatever the reason – it’s 100% A-OK in my book.  No harm, no foul, no judgement, no nothing. I do thank you sincerely for all the well wishes and other ways you can support as well, mainly just being the awesome friend that you always have been.

For those of you that DO want to check. Or those of you who are on the fence but want to research and ask questions before making a decision – there’s no way I can describe in words how grateful and thankful. Even if we don’t match – or in the end decide you can’t do it – just the stepping up to the plate part is the biggest gesture anyone has ever shown me, you’re in a very special club in my book, and I am indebted to you immensely.

I’m very excited about the future – there’s a lot to do but in the meantime, with my treatment programs I’m feeling great and functioning normally which is huge in my transplant quest.

Terry (10/06/2015)